Start by creating a three-column table with the headings as below:
Set aside some quiet time to complete the charts, work together to identify what’s difficult for each of you and what’s preventing you from doing what you need to do, and then choose practical small steps to which you can hold each other accountable.
The key to the exercise’s success is your willingness to go through the identifying process with your children openly. Your children cannot feel that this is only their problem. Be honest and open, and show them that you are going through challenges every day, just like they are, and how it is possible to face and overcome them.
Keep the charts available for daily reference, reinforcement, and tweaking. Perhaps put it in your child’s room or a more public space, like the kitchen, to remind you to discuss it often. You can add a reward system for achieving the goals along the way.
Here are some additional tips to encourage effort in your children: